Friday, August 1, 2008

Cardinal Rules V

It has come to my attention that we need to review the rules.

Not regular rules, which are meant to be bent, broken, twisted and otherwise tossed aside with scandalous disregard, but Cardinal Rules. Guidelines and standards by which we live, and which are never, ever broken.

In order to provide an all encompassing and comprehensive list, I have requested the assistance of four incomparable women who are wise, witty, experienced, strong, open minded and walk through each day with humor and a good woman's grace.

Welcome to Minx of The Inner Minx, Sognatrice of Bleeding Espresso, Heart of Guilty With an Explanation, and Vanilla of Absolute Vanilla. Thank you for your assistance ladies, I couldn't have designed a better team to produce these essential life rules.

We will feature each ladies Cardinal Rules for one day this week.

Cardinal Rules

Scarlett's Cardinal Rules:

~ Thou shalt not hate. No good comes of it, which consequently makes it a monumental waste.

~Be honest, kind and patient

~We are not as good as we could be; strive to be a better person and leave this world a better place for your having passed through it, EVERY single day. We are part of everyone and everything around us, build and grow within it.

~When you're wrong, say so, and apologize sincerely - repaired bridges will last decades longer than weak and broken ones

~Do not judge... lest ye be judged

~Forgive. Remember the lesson, and grow from it, but forgive

~Treat others with dignity and respect

~When you give your word, stand by it and make its worth good

~Always have dreams... they may change over time, but always have dreams

~Don't pass up opportunities to close your eyes and make a wish

~When you can help, do. There is no excuse to walk away from need when you can make a difference

~Don't assume anything; ask and be certain

~LISTEN with everything in you

~Never, ever ask a man how you look unless he's gay. - Straight men don't look at clothes, they look at where the clothes stop and the skin begins. If they have a 'vested intimate interest' in you, you are not going to get an honest answer. The only straight men who have any fashion sense at all are Metrosexual and they are in short order; if you find one, keep him in whatever capacity you can get him (preferably friends). This is what your girlfriends are for; your good close girlfriends who would tell you if you had broccoli in your teeth and if your outfit is NOT flattering.

~Let the people that you care about know just how much they mean to you - you don't know how much time you have left with them

~Laugh a lot; laughter is the rainbow that pushes the clouds away

~Hold hands; there isn't anything we can't get through when we have a hand to hold along the way

~There are times when one must splurge, life is too short for permanent practicality

~Be daring whenever possible -it broadens horizons, and you will miss less of life

~Explore what you do not understand until you do understand it, even if you disagree

~Look closely at who and what is beneath the surface, and you will always be surprised one way or the other

~Time is the most precious gift and commodity that we are ever given; how you spend it absolutely defines who and what you are

Thank you Heart, Minx, Vanilla and Sognatrice for your help on this project, it's been so fun and a very good review!


Clowncar said...

Lord knows I am not a rules oriented kinda guy, but I've enjoyed your Cardinal Rules for the past week, whether I agreed with them (Explore what you do not understand until you do understand it) or not (Everything happens for a reason).

Thanks Scarlett!

Wanderlust Scarlett said...

Hi Clowncar,

It has been fun to get such different rules from each of the ladies, and it's been fun reading the responses, glad you could come away with some!

Scarlett & Viaggiatore

Sameera Ansari said...

This is the icing on the cake!You have put so beautifully in words what run in my mind as thoughts.

A great job done this week!Five fantastic sets by five fabulous women :)

Wanderlust Scarlett said...


You are so very kind, thank you.
It was a good, fun week, wasn't it?

Scarlett & Viaggiatore

Kay Cooke said...

I love every one of them and will strive to not break any of them for the rest of my life!!!

rel said...

no finer goals can be aspired to. And of course it's in the trying, even after failing, that brings us inner satisfaction.
Don't lose the moment for personal recrimination.
Well thought out list, but who could expect less from you?

Unknown said...

This was such fun and the rules which everyone came up with are brilliant!
And your rules are a real treasure, Scarlett.

I confess that somehow I got the wrong end of this thing and thought you were posting one set of rules a week! I will direct folks here in my next blog post because there is just such wisdom - and humour - in these posts!

Thanks for the fun, Gorgeous! xxx

Anonymous said...

Clever, witty, kind... a perfect post..

*gnashes teeth in envy*

All Minx sends me is rude jokes and curses...

molly said...

All five of you gave us a blueprint for living lives worth the effort.

Wanderlust Scarlett said...

Hello Kay!

Well, the rest of your life is a long time, but they are good rules... so, do your best!

Hi Rel!

We can all aspire to do and be better, as long as we keep trying, and don't lose the lessons along the way.
Thank you!

Dearest Vanilla,

It was great to have you on the team, you came up with a very good list. It couldn't have been complete without you!
Thanks for the link!


That's because she really likes you, you lucky dog.

Miss Molly,

Hopefully most people will follow the design on the blueprints... yes?

Scarlett & Viaggiatore

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Wanderlust Scarlett said...

Hey Chesca!

Thank you! Nice to see you.

Scarlett & Viaggiatore

J said...

I kinda want to print those up and put them on my wall. Excellent rules.

Wanderlust Scarlett said...

Hey Jules!

Yes! They are all really good; all the ladies came up with some great rules.
Thank you so much!

Scarlett & Viaggiatore

Lena said...

wonderful rules, all of them... wish they were not just written but really followed by people.. But people have a tendency to break them all the time *sigh*

Sameera Ansari said...

Nice to see an update after so long!My blog list showed the title of another post which ain't there :(

How have you been dear?


Scribblers Inc said...

intelligent stuff and totally relatable!!:)

Scribblers Inc.

Wanderlust Scarlett said...


Amen to that... I wish they were followed by a lot of people, most of the time. Wouldn't that be wonderful?

Hey Sameera!

You caught me! I did put up another post... but it was a bit snarky; out of character for me, and I regretted posting it, so I took it down.

I'm doing well, how are you?
*hugs back!*

Hi Scribblers,

Thanks, I just hope that it is useful, and used... by many.

Scarlett & Viaggiatore